As we are in the summer months and lots of activity is happening around the city, this note is to remind everyone: get home safely. I often have conversations with persons I represent in traffic and criminal cases about interactions with police. The conversations goes something like this: your one and only objective is to GET HOME SAFELY. You can contest the legality of the stop, the rudeness of the officer, or any other issue that may arise - later! Your one and only objective is to get home safely in the face of a person who has the ability to take your freedom and your life! My suggestion is to be polite no matter how rude or wrong the officer may be because your one goal is to get home safely. Keep your hands visible and respond appropriately to questions with “Yes Mam/Sir” and “No Mam/Sir” and simply get home safely. I have been personally stopped for a pre textual reason and experienced by blood pressure rise, my voice get high and screechy, and the indignati ...
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In the spirit of passing on the wisdom of an elderly client, I share this with those of you who are elderly, middle aged or young and in relationship with someone elderly or middle aged. First of all those of us that are elderly or middle aged probably do not call ourselves this - and yet, it is where we are in life! Here is the essence of what this wise man said to me: Growing old gracefully is a series of adjustments. When he said it, I got it as well as I could, but he could probably tell I just had a vague notion of what he was really trying to share. So he proceeded to physically demonstrate it. He is a tall stately gentleman with a receded hairline, wearing a soft plaid shirt, and khaki slacks as he sat in the chair in front of my desk. He suddenly curled up his long leg and stretched it forth towards my forehead and put his foot on my desk! He said, “See! This is an adjustment I made. I only wear comfortable sensible shoes! And, look here (as he pointed to his chest pocket on ...
We all move about life from day to day, hour to hour, and minute to minute… Often struggling for answers to big life questions. Well, I have been sent to you today to let you know that I have found the answer! At least it feels like the answer... and, it was all born in a text message! Before you actually turn your attention away from these words on this page, just stay with me for minute. Lately as I have been texting friends and families I have noticed that I kept making the same typo over and over again. Every time I went to type "love" the "o" would get mistakenly typed as an "i" (those two letters are right next to one another). This may not seem like a big deal to you, but it was a great moment for me! I realize that perhaps my smartphone was reminding me of a real key life lesson. A lesson that has come to life in the teachings of Jesus and a lesson that likewise dies in the midst of family and relationship conflict. The lesson I came up with from my text typo is this: To love is to liv ...