I am realizing that many of us call ourselves family lawyers and often it is a misnomer. Unfortunately, often times we are not lawyers who work for families. Many of us have turned our profession into lawyers who work for one party, get enrolled in their drama, and advocate a position based righteousness, hurt feelings - filtered with a little law in between. What am I saying? A family lawyer can be expected to be just that. A lawyer representing one interest, yet being for the entire family. I am suggesting that family law is about the wholeness of the family.    Am I a good advocate, yes. Do I get good reliable results for my client, yes. Am I for the families, yes. What am I saying? The job of a family lawyer is to bring professional sanity to a hurt and insane situation. Our job is to bring expertise and compassion to a highly emotional setting. Our job is to advocate for, while redirecting energies and attention to a new future. Yes, a new future. You do not have to always be fighting paren ...

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